I wish fathers(parents) give more freedom of choice and let their children take own decisions after their turn adults. Not saying that they should let them to do anything, but should have a obligation of showing their point of view and why they think the thing their children are trying to do might not work. The biggest mistake parents do is no let their children discover by themself and let them fail - yes failure, parents(specifically Indian parents) are more fearful of their children failure than their owns. They can only see a tangible failure but forget to see an intangible - their own mistake which teaches them way more .

I couldn't imagine my father being less harsh with me, it has it's positives and negatives. I wouldn't have become what I am now, if it is not for him. Reminds me of my childhood anecdotes - he beaten hell out me when I can't learn how to multiply and learn tables, and also when I took 20 rupees from his pocket when he said only to take 10 rupees.

But I feel frustrated that, even when I try to talk with peace of mind and politely he doesn't listen but restates what I did wrong last time. Our parents want us to be someone whom they can be proud of, sure we try our best to make that. But in the process we grow up lot differently, only showing good parts to them such that they feel satisfied.

There is a point why I only spot my father, but not my mother. Because it's in my case, it might be your mother in your case. Well if you say neither of them are not, then congratulations you are lucky, but I caution to take advantage of the lenience and good relationship.

I wonder how I will be parenting my children, should I be harsh or should I be friendly? I wouldn't have become the same me today if my father wasn't that harsh to me - don't know whether I have to use the word "harsh", but I guess it serves the purpose.